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| Yep, all four kiddos, no hubby :( |
I wasn't so worried about the girls behaviors. We really do have pretty well-behaved kids. I was more worried about keeping them entertained and moving quickly enough throughout the process. I don't know if you plane riders have noticed, but the whole flight process is nothing but a lot of rushing to do a lot of waiting. You have to rush through the check-in to wait in line at security, then rush through security and to your gate to wait around for boarding. If you have kids you rush through boarding (we were first on everytime) to then wait for the plane to load and finally take off, then you rush through packing up to wait to deplane and rush to your next gate to wait to board and repeat. This is NOT a kid friendly process.
This is what our trip looked like--I will highlight the kindness of strangers in purple:
Mom (that's me) rushes to counter at first airport for departure, flustered because of having to change tickets and fact they are in TWO different names and on TWO different cards so the check in kiosk is not an option. Nice desk agent says, "Calm down Mom. Take a breath, you have plenty of time and I will help you out." She then proceeds to nicely place all of the boarding passes in a very useable manner and to have a colleague carry the car seats to checkout.
Mom and crying/whining kids say goodbye to Daddy. Nice random lady brings over a bag of cookies. Crying is immediately replaced by happy cookie munching.
Mom, wearing baby (3 months), pushing youngest girl (18 months) in stroller, with a toddler (almost 3) on one side and a small child (4) on the other walks up to security line just to see IT HAS STEPS down. CRAP. Mom drags all children, still happily munching cookies/sleeping in carrier to nice TSA guy in charge of priority checkout lane, asks what to do and whether navigation down the stairs is necessary with stroller and children. TSA guy says, "use the wheelchair ramp, no problem."
Mom, children, and stroller, as well as multiple bags go down ramp. People giving encouraging smiles, not the dreaded scowls expected!
Family arrives at the bottom of the ramp only to realize the ramp ends where the security line begins, effectively cutting in front of at least 75 people. Mom looks unsure as to the next step (I mean, do I really want to be THAT person?). Nice TSA guy motions the group forward. Mom looks at the three people next in line, each one smiles and the one closest says, "Go Ahead. You need as much time as you can get to go through there" and makes extra space so young child does not have to let go of stroller to get through.
Mom gives boarding passes and ID--while toddler who wants to hold that specific hand begins to cry and grab at Mom's leg. TSA agents help grab bags from children, fold stroller, place things on xray machine, and good naturedly remind Mom to remove her shoes. They then calmly help children walk through metal detector and assist in corralling children while Mom has hands swiped (since she wore baby through).
Throughout this ordeal...probably lasting up to 15 minutes, the man behind the family not only waited for his turn without complaining but also helped mom remove a backpack that was caught in her hair.
As the family was waiting for the milk bottle to be checked and replacing backpacks on shoulders, the last cookie was devoured (leaving the toddler without) and crying (LOUD crying with no direction following or walking to be seen) ensued. The very nice TSA agents quickly came to Mom's rescue with extra TSA badge stickers. They also assisted in opening the stroller and repacking bags--possibly making the process take half the time it could have. Finally, the TSA gentlemen with the extra stickers also rechecked the family's flight and gave them directions on where to go for their gate.
The family made their way to the gate and Mom picked out a spot with some open space in front of several open seats so children could play and move around before the flight. Children colored, ate snacks out of backpacks, and played with stuffed animals while mom fed and rocked the baby. There was surprisingly very little fighting and some sharing occurring. Occasionally the three girls would say hi and wave to another individual sitting in the waiting area. Every single one of them smiled and waved back. Several carried on a conversation with the young child and the toddler.
As the time grew closer for the flight, the youngest girl and the young child got a little rowdy. The young child practically body slammed the littlest girl into the ground. Mom placed the young child in timeout, casing her to begin to cry. Not one person gave the mom a dirty look, in fact one kind gentleman came up to her and said, "you are mom of the year. Really, you are doing a great job."
Just as Mom began to feel a little overwhelmed, the ticket lady came up and gave her different boarding passes, saying, "I gave you the whole row so you could stretch out" and prompted the family to go ahead and line up because they were going to begin boarding.
Once on the plane, the youngest girl got scared and had to be carried by mom (who was still wearing baby). The flight attendents helped the older girls get into their seats, strapped in, and their backpacks put away while Mom attempted to strap the youngest, flailing and screaming girl, into her harness. At this point, the baby began to scream. Mom was able to calm him upon sitting and feeding, while also showing the screaming youngest girl the "dog-dogs" in the SkyMall magazine. By the time the flight was full, all four children were content, sucking on suckers or bottles. NOT one individual made a comment about flying near kids.
The flight was relatively simple and Mom found herself smiling as the flight attendents commented on the children's good behavior. The children had limited whining and the baby slept the entire flight. As the plane pulled up to the gate, every single one of the 9 people sitting near the family spent a few moments discussing just how well the children and baby traveled.
The family waited until everyone else had gotten off the plane to deplane. The flight attendents offered to carry a bag and one walked the family to the gate and checked for the connecting flight, asking if Mom wanted a motorized vehicle to pick them up and cart them to the connection. Amazingly, the connecting flight was simply three gates down--SCORE!
Seem hectic and busy? That was only three hours of our total travel time and only one flight out of four. I am not going to make you read through the entire trips details but here are a few highlights:
In Atlanta, waiting for second flight to destination, Mom asked an older gentleman to watch bags so she could do a family bathroom break, accidentally waking him up. Not only did he graciously agree to watch the bags, but he also heard the oldest girl, not even twenty minutes later, say she needed to potty. He caught Mom's eye and nodded, allowing for the family to do yet another 20 minute long bathroom routine--involving the youngest girl crawling out of the stall while Mom was using the restroom and being picked up and entertained by a stranger, who called to Mom, "Don't worry, I've got her!" --This trip is probably the only time I would ever be so damn grateful to strangers for picking up my children without my explicit permission!
The flight attendents on all the flights were so helpful and encouraging. In fact, one gentleman who gave the girls wings on the second flight also ended up responding to the youngest girl calling him "Daddy". At first he kind of let it go, but by the end, when he was holding the oldest girls hand and carrying a bag for Mom he had given up and just said, "what is it honey?" each time she said "Daddy" and waved to him. Another attendant walked the family all the way to it's connecting flight on the trip home, carrying a bag and helping the older girls get safely onto and settled into a bench on the train while a nice gentleman placed his foot in front of the stroller wheel to ensure it wouldn't move when the train started and stopped.
And finally, just the sheer number of people willing to grab a bag or a child's hand, to offer assistance and an encouraging smile. I was blown away by the level of encouragement and support I received. I fully expected to hear a lot of groaning and see a lot of eye rolling. I was not at all prepared to have multiple strangers on each leg of the trip stop me and tell me I was brave, that they respected me, that my children were well behaved and adorable. I did not expect people offering to watch my bags, or even better, my children--particularly when my kids were melting down--all four of them--after being woken up from the last leg of our journey. (But the flight attendents and a stranger on that last flight did just that, and with smiles and words of understanding on their lips!) I didn't expect to see so many smiles and waves to the kids and so many individuals willing to engage them in small talk or indulge them with a wave back (20 times in some cases!). I appreciated every smile, every subtle move to make things easier for us. I appreciated the willingness to help and the understanding looks I received from so many people.
My faith in humanity was restored on this trip. I am so much more optimistic about human nature. I was blown away, and hope that maybe these little vignettes may help you see our world a little differently, a little more brightly, as well.
Have you ever had a surprising experience that allowed you to check yourself on your thoughts of humanity? Have you ever been pleasantly surprised by people's reactions to something or someone? How long did that new faith last? What did you do with it? How did it change you?
For me, I just feel more confident in myself as a mother--particularly as a mother of so many young ones. I feel seen and respected in a way that I never did before. I always thought strangers were looking at me and thinking--"What was she thinking, having four kids that close together? Why in the world would she attempt to bring them all to a store/park/college campus/airport/etc by herself? etc. etc. etc." I feel less judged, less alone in society now. I feel more supported and more encouraged. And I can't even begin to describe how good that feels--to feel like I'm not an outcast from society--wondered at from afar, but instead a harried looking mom who people want to reach out to, help and encourage, and who some people may just respect.